Anytime my kids misbehave my husband blames me because I am the primary caregiver.

I (F) am with my kids (8 & 6) most of their waking hours (minus school) while my husband (M) works. We are both raising them as he’s home for about 3 hours before they go to bed and on the weekends as well. I feel so anxious when my kids are “bad” because my husband immediately questions my parenting skills and general ability to discipline them. He never considers that our kids are just being kids and so yes, sometimes they don’t listen, or they fight with eachother or show disrespect. If he spends any time with them alone and they’re not behaving he never thinks that he might have contributed to the situation, he immediately defaults to “what did you do to our kids, they’re so bad”. It’s a lot of pressure on me and I feel like I’m failing. I just don’t know how to get him to see that I do discipline my kids and set boundaries. They have consequences and I’m not just this free range mom who doesn’t parent. It’s all so frustrating and makes me HATE the weekends.