How do you stop being angry at your partner?

I’ve posted on this sub every single luteal phase since I’ve found it. I’ve been prescribed Zoloft and took my first one day after I had an argument with my husband, just like every luteal phase.

At this point, our relationship has deteriorated severely. I do not yell and I do not get abusive, but I start acting weird during luteal. I make snide comments. I bring up issues (knowing I could hold in my anger because it’s not a big deal but then I can’t control it) and create arguments out of thin air even if he apologizes for whatever is hurting me. I have a lot of issues. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I’m going through a lot in my life. Lots of people tell you your partner should be there for you no matter what, but objectively speaking, we probably wouldn’t tolerate our partners if they were like this either. HOW do I change? Even when luteal starts I think I’m feeling fine until I lash out about something small and then feel insane. Any help on how not to lash out and start shit when you live with someone would be appreciated.