Husband is lying, stocks are gone
Tdlr: Husband should have vested stocks from his company, yesterday I wanted to see for the first time and it was 0$
Married almost for 18 years, have 2 kids
My husband works at Apple for almost 4 years and Apple gives RSUs as part of his compensation.
In the past, he had a lot of debts. At that time I was taking care of kids and not working. Then I started working, we closed his debts together. It was around 40-50K at that time. When he secured a job at Apple and we agreed he would not touch his RSUs as we have kids and did not have any savings.
Over the past 4 years, I asked him occasionally if he sold any and he always said “no” and yesterday I found out that he did. He has not been transparent about what happened, or where the money went. When I press him about to get an answer all he says is he lost it in the stock market.
I don’t know if there’s someone else involved. He has never given me a reason to suspect that.
I feel deeply disappointed because this is a repeated pattern. First, his credit score and credit card debt, and now this. It feels like every time I help him fix one issue another bigger one appears. I’m exhausted and struggling to trust him anymore. He knows that lying is one of my biggest deal breakers.
I feel very disappointed as this was a repetitive pattern in the past. His credit score, cc debts and now this. I feel like I help him to fix one thing and he comes back with a larger problem. I feel so tired and not trusting him anymore. He knows lying is one of the big No for me.
I don’t know what to do