Folders driving me crazy

Hi, Been using Windows for 20+ years but am new to macos. What I can't figure out, and haven't been able to solve by searching this sub and forums, is how to permanently, across all folders have subfolders and files organized by name and in a neat grid. I've tried, among other things, the "show view options" option, and even selected "use as defaults", but then going to another folder I still have files and folders completely unorganized. What is the most frustrating is that files don't "snap" in place, that they can be moved anywhere inside the folder - even on top of other files... I want to set universal defaults for all folders.

Thanks in advance