Maybe RPGs are not my thing?

I have a hard time sticking to mmorpgs compared to other games like coops and action mmos.

I like rpgs, i have played a quite bit of LOTRO and RoR, and when I was younger Drakensang, War of Dragons and Requiem. But nowadays every rpg feels like smashing buttons and running quests in solo mode, and maybe its because I have adhd but i feel understimulated because of this. I feel like they are not "games" enough, despite the concept of grinding skills and gear, becoming stronger and doing stuff like reputations and exploring excites me.

My most played games are Vermintide 2, Deep Rock Galactic, Skyrim and World of Warships.

Maybe its because Im always rushing and grinding? I am aware I got that attitude from competing in others games, always sticking to a meta, playing for hours to earn X, having to come out on top, etc.