To the lesbians: what was more complicated, figuring out you are attracted to women, or figuring out you were not attracted to men?

You can interpret “complicated” any way you want, either which took the longest, which was the scariest, which took the most amount of introspection, or whatever other criteria you’d like, let me know in the comments!

For me, knowing I loved women was very simple, and I identified as bi for a few years without much trouble. Coming to terms with my lack of attraction to men took longer and was scarier, it’s hard to accept how societally lonely it is to be a lesbian, but it was also a relief not to have to pretend I felt something I very much did not anymore!