Why do we support community’s wrongs?

A while ago, I posted a thread here about gay men marrying straight women who don’t have a single clue that they’re marrying a gay man. Note….the guy I was talking about is extremely rich, could just shift to any country or city, but it was his decision not to do that and marry a girl. In the end, most Indian men can’t stand up for themselves against their own families. Anyways, everyone attacked me because I don’t support his decision at all. I think it’s very selfish. People started saying to me, “You’re a snake in the grass” for the community, while all I could think of was that girl’s life, her expectations. I was seeing it from her POV too. In order to support, should we let someone’s life get destroyed? Where are the morals? Are we that out of touch with reality, with any sort of sympathy? While, yes, you can see it from his perspective too, I’m sorry… I can’t support this stuff at all. Yes, I feel for the guy, but it’s a clear no. I don’t wanna sound corny, but it’s almost like cutting a limb or having a serious injury that can’t heal. That’s how I feel for the girl. Even if she finds out, her life is completely destroyed. And even if she gets a divorce…well, yk how our Indian society still treats divorced women. The thing is, no one told her. Not a single person did. Everyone just watched her get married. Like, I’m sorry, but if you put yourself in her shoes, it’s a f***ing nightmare…. it’s truly a horror story. So no, I don’t care, tbh. I hope instead of letting these things happen, people start calling out these gay men. Because if he doesn’t have any sympathy for that girl, sorry, I can’t have the same for him either.

Maybe I’m in the wrong, idk… but it’s so f***ed up that we support things like this. I was horrified when I saw everyone’s comments attacking me and blaming me, saying I’m the one in the wrong for thinking that what he did was wrong.