Difficulty finding the grains

So things were going great for my first few ferments. I checked on a batch the other day and it seemed very watery so I left the next batch in longer. Now I've got tons of curds and very watery milk. I'm assuming it's just whey? I tried to find the grains in this mass of curds but am having a hard time. My strainer just gets totally clogged and I try to push the curds through with a rubber spoon. Are things supposed to look this way? How do you guys seperate curds from grains? Thanks!