Mom started planning baby shower without even talking to me about it

So I’m almost 12 weeks so I’m pretty early still but found out I was pregnant before 4 weeks and told our families right away. I mentioned to my mom I am thinking of having two baby showers, one in my home town and one where we live, to which she said okay.

Nothing has been said about this since and this was weeks ago. So honestly I started to assume I would actually be throwing both myself (which is totally fine) but I started realizing it was going to cost me a lot and started leaning toward just having one.

Two days ago my mom texted me saying my cousins are super excited for us to have a baby and want to help with the shower. And I talked to my mom yesterday and she mentioned that SHE asked them to help with the shower. So today I had to ask if SHE was throwing me one, because I didn’t know if she was or she was assuming I was and was asking for help on my behalf.

She told me she was but didn’t bring it up yet as she knew we wanted to wait to find out the gender to start planning… to which I said we are waiting to think about names and like what color to paint the nursery..?

To which she said “someday we will learn how to communicate effectively”. This annoyed me because in my mind, she just makes assumptions and doesn’t communicate her thoughts. She just does things. She assumes others are making these same assumptions. She also was like “I thought you wanted a shower” to which I said “yes, you just never told me you were planning one”.

I’m very grateful she wants to throw me one, just frustrated I guess with the constant zero communication and assumptions of things that INVOLVE me.