Gender selection ethics

My wife and I chose to transfer a female embryo - we are in the US so it’s legal here.

Honestly I didn’t think too much about the ethics of it as it didn’t really seem like we were doing anything bad - we just figured we have the option and we both lean a little toward having a girl so why not?

I’ve since seen some news about Elon Musk’s trans daughter Vivian (I believe she was assigned male at birth), and a lot of angry redditors talking about how Musk practiced eugenics by selecting a boy. He was also apparently very against her being trans, and she has posted that he bought her gender like it was a monetary transaction, which felt dehumanizing to her.

I’m a little spooked now, like is our daughter going to resent us for choosing a female embryo? Will others judge us? And if she is trans, will it haunt her that the male gender is not the one that we “bought”?

We have already done the transfer so I guess there’s nothing we can do now, but any thoughts would be appreciated!

Edit: yes to clarify I mean sex selection- of course I realize no one can choose a baby’s gender in terms of how they identify later in life, and of course I’ll love and support this kid no matter what