Who between you or your partner initiated the conversation of actively trying to conceive/starting the IVF process?

I should preface this by saying, my question comes from a chat I was having with my husband. The main issue was how husbands sometimes feel like just sperm production banks when their wives nudge them to have sex around ovulation and perhaps that’s the only time they initiate sex at all and how it became less of an intimacy thing and more of a baby making mission.

He mentioned that men seem to be more relaxed about this, they would rather it organically happen instead of it being rigorously tracked. I think all of us would rather it happen “organically” too but we aren’t that lucky which is why we push to try whatever methods we can. In my case, I was the one who brought up starting to try and I was the one who, after years of no success, brought up seeking help from a fertility clinic. He was and still is 100% on board but I guess today after our conversation, I wished that at least at one point, he would have been the one to start the discussion.

Anyway, I’m curious to hear who initiated the conversation about seriously trying to have children and when to move to IVF. If it isn’t the partner, does that at all make the wives/girlfriends feel some type of way? How are you/did you deal with these feelings?