Dating as a gen z is ridiculous

I (21m) find dating in 2025 to be ridiculous.

First off finding someone in 2025 is ridiculous. They say try a dating app. Only works if youre a 10/10 male or a woman. Like seriously you can't get fuck all and when you do.....it's either a bit or you get hit with the "how tall are you?" Or get ghosted. They say oh go out and just meet people and interact with others within hobbies or something.....yeah I think the balding 40 year old male buying his batman comics or the group of guys at the rec center playing basketball is gonna help me find someone....

They say be yourself..... Ok that's true I've learned that's true to an extent. However, some people have "ick lists" and is the most ridiculous little things and that they will be like nah I'm good. Therefore you have no idea what to do because she may be turned off by you by the littlest things like how you walk or how you hold a mug or something.

If you somehow get lucky and do somehow get a date and you think it goes alright and you two laughed and had a good time....she may say she had a good time, next day you'll get hit with the "it was nice meeting you but I don't think this will work out" and of course your genuinely confused as to what you did and why did you just straight up lie to you and you wasted time and money that you'll never get back.

It's ridiculous and the societal pressure to be in a relationship adds to the ridiculousness of the whole situation. If you're not in a relationship,as a guy, you're a loser and you have something wrong with you