People will hyper-focus on the reason they think they're FA

A lot of folks in this sphere absolutely do hyper-focus on the reason they think they're FA to the point where they believe it's only reason anyone could ever be FA (including myself).

I won't go into detail about it cause I don't want to get banned but it's gotten to the point where it's created entire ideologies (you know what I'm talking about).

For me personally, I'm shy, not confident, very inhibited. I suspect I have an avoidant personality disorder. Personally, I believe the only real reason anyone could ever be FA is severe personality "deficits". When I go outside and wander the streets I see ugly, short guys with girlfriends all the time, but never an obviously shy, awkward one with a gf.

I'm relatively tall, conventionally good-lucking (jaw-line, broad shoulders etc.), do sports and sometimes even get complimented for my looks. I also earn good money for my young age. It helped me exactly ZILCH with finding a girlfriend. Even getting matches on dating apps doesn't matter cause there is a huge gap between initial interest and converting it into anything meaningful.

When I read posts discussing physical attractiveness I really do feel like they're wasting their time talking about esoteric mumbo-jumbo. "Attractive eyes" "Symmetric face" Lmao what the fuck are you talking about, get real, this shit doesn't matter outside of social media (you get what I mean)

Some guy who thinks the reason for his FA-status is that he's short will probably read this post and think I'm insane and delusional and probably more ugly than I think I am (otherwise I would have no issues). Fair enough, really. I don't really know what to make of all this, perhaps that most people are probably not exactly objective and highly influenced by their subjective individual experience, but I just felt like putting this out there.