multiplayer question

I've revisited elden ring after some time off, beat the last DLC boss and started multiplayer after, (not seamless, just vanilla), why:

  1. for co-op, it's always the same 5 bosses

  2. duelist finger dont work

  3. invaders pvp is lame, half the time I'm trying to find the host, and filled with teams ganking me

Am I missing anything, or just the way it is?