Who controls “the guidance of grace?”

So the lost grace points that help guide us lead in two separate directions, with one seemingly ending at a dead end at Castle Morne while the other takes us to the Giants’ Forge.

Given that the Lord of Chaos pathway begins with Irina’s death, it seems like grace was leading us to the flame of frenzy as well as the location of the shard-bearers (excluding Malenia and Miquella, presumedly because the Haligtree was so well hidden and no body knows Miquella effed off to the Realm of Shadow), before converging at Leyndell.

So….who exactly is guiding us? We know the Greater Will went to go pick up a gallon of milk and some cigarettes a LONG time ago, so that leaves the fingers and Marika. I say the fingers because if the two-fingers can effect the guidance of grace, then surely the three-fingers can as well. But when it comes to Marika, idk. Was she so sick of it all that she didn’t care how her age ended so long as it DID end? Or is there some weird third option where guidance is affected by the tarnished and when we first arrive in the Lands Between, we’re not sure wtf is going on outside of “stand before the elden ring!” so grace guides us towards our options?

So the lost grace points that help guide us lead in two separate directions, with one seemingly ending at a dead end at Castle Morne while the other takes us to the Giants’ Forge.

Given that the Lord of Chaos pathway begins with Irina’s death, it seems like grace was leading us to the flame of frenzy as well as the location of the shard-bearers (excluding Malenia and Miquella, presumedly because the Haligtree was so well hidden and no body knows Miquella effed off to the Realm of Shadow), before converging at Leyndell.

So….who exactly is guiding us? We know the Greater Will went to go pick up a gallon of milk and some cigarettes a LONG time ago, so that leaves the fingers and Marika. I say the fingers because if the two-fingers can effect the guidance of grace, then surely the three-fingers can as well. But when it comes to Marika, idk. Was she so sick of it all that she didn’t care how her age ended so long as it DID end? Or is there some weird third option where guidance is affected by the tarnished and when we first arrive in the Lands Between, we’re not sure wtf is going on outside of “stand before the elden ring!” so grace guides us towards our options?