Xanax + weed vs alcohol + weed

Going to a house party (only with a few chill close friends) and I want something a bit different that just drinking.

I get sometimes terrible anxiety from weed (tho it can also be very calming and nice at times) So do I do the super chill Xanax + weed, which I'm scared will make me too lazy and tired Or do I do weed + alcohol or would that just cause anxiety?

I'd love to have a nice chill night out with talking and stuff but don't want to just sleep either