I always believed in Amber Heard and pretty much never got swayed in 2022. Let's discuss

Hello. I know this sub regularly gets "I used to believe in Depp, but this is why I changed my mind..." posts. Those are well and good. It's never too late to realize the truth and I won't shame others for buying into an aggressive smear campaign. However, I'm curious about the differences between people who did believe him and people like me, who didn't.

I know some people believed in Depp's smear campaign because they were kids. However, I was a 9th grader when Amber accused Depp of abuse. I was (and am) also young, and I didn't believe them even then. Some people also say that their abusers were women, so they believed in Depp because they wanted some representation for victims of abuse by women. My earliest abuser is a woman (someone in my family), but again, I always believed in Amber.

I think for me, the difference is that I never viewed my experience with abuse as an isolated case. I was "lucky" in a weird way that I come from a big, fucked-up family where the effects of abuse could be felt/seen in almost every one of us. I'm not trying to minimize other people's experiences, but I do get the sense from many other people's stories that they tend to see their abuse as just "something that happened to just me because my abuser was evil and that's that." However, from a very young age, I learned that so much of abuse is cyclical. Whether I wanted to or not, I had to acknowledge that my abusers also came from a background of generational trauma.

I saw other kids in my family go from sweet little kids to aggressive and angry. That didn't mean they became abusers themselves, but our elders predicted correctly that there would be issues as we were growing up, and there were. Again, they were not abusive, but they sometimes fought back. They yelled and had breakdowns. Their trauma was/is not neat or pretty. That's the kind of thing that ignorant people demonize in abuse survivors. So that's why I never thought an abuse fighting back or their trauma getting ugly or them not being the most pleasant person = "mutual abuse," "they were never really a victim," etc. because TRAUMA GETS UGLY. Even our abusers had trauma and still victims of the people who abused them, and even the people who didn't grow up to be abusers in our family still got fucked up badly by the trauma. I recognized Amber as someone who was abused, and simply fought back and got her mind fucked up by the trauma.

How about the others here who always believed in Amber?