How has the concept of being Christlike harmed you? Or am I the only one that sees it as a bad thing?

As I grew up in the faith, I always had this internalised pressure to be extra loving and forgiving to people. There was this level of perfection I had to attain by neglecting my own needs and putting others first. Eventually I crashed and burned which led me out of Christianity. They said it was a renewal of the soul and it would come naturally but for me it never did. Not to mention the whole unconditional love thing. Which is another paradox in itself. I always had to project that outward niceness and it made me rather resentful of needing to always help people.