Confessed to My Crush & Now I'm Confused!

I have a huge crush on someone I met on a dating app, but we never really had deep conversations since he wasn’t very active there. So, we connected on Instagram instead.

But after connecting on Instagram, we never talked much, so I assumed he didn’t like me. However, my crush on him developed gradually as I got glimpses of his social life—he’s very charming, funny, and effortlessly charismatic.

After about a month, I felt like life was too short to leave things unsaid, so I decided to confess my feelings. Poyaaloru vaak.. My friends warned me about keeping that crush a secret. He’s 30+, well-off, and, more importantly, surrounded by a lots of female friends. When I messaged him, he responded nicely but immediately set a boundary, saying he wasn’t looking for a relationship.

Yet, after that, he started giving me mixed signals—liking my Instagram stories but never actually starting a conversation. I tried reaching out, but his responses weren’t exactly encouraging, so I decided to back off. But now, he’s still liking my stories.

Is this just him being considerate, or does he just enjoy the attention? I’m in England, and he’s in Kerala, but he did say we’d definitely hang out at some point. The conversation was really playful, and I have no idea if he's even open to something casual. Ithokke entha? How do I figure that out?🥲