Seeking Advice: Dealing with Mom's Smoking Obsession and Vascular Dementia

Hi everyone,

I'm reaching out for some advice and support regarding my mom's situation. She's been a smoker for over 40 years, but things have taken a turn since she was diagnosed with vascular dementia.

Her obsession with cigarettes has become overwhelming. She constantly needs them nearby and gets visibly upset if they're not within reach. Even though she only takes a few puffs before putting them out, she quickly becomes agitated and starts crying that she needs more or that she's running out of the. It's become financially unsustainable, especially considering her limited income of $1500 a month.

I've tried to help her quit or at least cut down, but it's been incredibly challenging. I refuse to enable her habit by using my money to purchase cigarettes, it already kills me that I have to even buy them for her using her money, but I'm running out of ideas on how to handle the situation without causing more distress for her.

If anyone has dealt with a similar situation or has any advice or resources to share, I would be immensely grateful. This journey has been tough, and I could really use some guidance on how to best support my mom while also taking care of myself.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.