what’s the men’s starter pack to not look miserable?

I’ve been stuck in this weird place lately where I just feel… empty. Like I’m just existing to pass time until it’s over. I don’t even remember the last time I actually felt good about myself. Looked in the mirror today and realized I’m just surviving, not living. I look dead. Feel dead.

So I wanted to ask, what’s the bare minimum starter pack for men to get their life together? Not talking luxury stuff. I mean basic, essential things that help you look, smell, and carry yourself like a man who actually gives a damn about being alive. Hygiene, grooming, clothes, mindset, whatever. Just the fundamental things that make existing suck a little less.

And for the women here (if you’re willing to help some random guy on the internet):

• What do you notice first about a guy who seems like he “has his life together”?

• What small habits, details, or behaviors actually stand out?

• What makes a guy feel “safe” or “comfortable” to be around?

• What’s something you wish more guys understood about carrying themselves?

I know I can’t fix how I feel overnight, but maybe starting with the basics will at least get me out of this hole. Appreciate any advice. I’m just tired of feeling like this.