Pretty overwhelmed by the complexity

I have historically played MMOs like RuneScape, FFXIV, or single player games that are very simple, like the Zelda series. Dark Souls 2 is probably the most complicated game I've played that isn't an RTS. BG3 is becoming pretty overwhelming to me pretty quickly. There are SO many skills on the bottom row with damage numbers and effects (I pretty much just always pick the highest damage one because I don't know what else I'm supposed to do) and I'm constantly picking up massive amounts of items and gear that I have to compare against four party members' current gear to see which one is better. There are a lot of quests going on at once and the areas are fairly confusing for me to navigate, even with the map.

I'm wondering if anyone has tips for me on overcoming the complexity. Or do I just give up and snag something more like Elden Ring that's more within my intellectual boundaries?