Why do they seem so disaffected after the discard?

It’s like they don’t even remember any of the emotional (trauma) bond that developed between us.

Mine was a 4.5 year relationship, living together, the works. I was the love of her life, her favorite man, the most handsome man, the most talented man etc. That vanished once she split on me.

Now the interactions over texting and phone call are so cold and void of any acknowledgement of our past. Any effort I make to bring up the good memories, past bond we shared, or to get through the psychological barrier that she has created in her mind, aren’t acknowledged or are swiftly shut down - like they never existed.

6 months later, it’s like non of it mattered to her or was even real, and I can’t get her out of my head. Her words of affirmation and “love” continue to have an effect on my ability to see this relationship for what it really was. It’s the most painful relationship experience I’ve ever gone through.