Worried I'll never get to sub someone

I'm really looking for a long-term relationship--I'm not a fan of hook ups. But I've never been with a Domme before, and I'm worried that if I settle down, I'll never get the opportunity

Most of the women I talk to are usually submissive. and if I find a dominant women through events and such, she's usually not single, and I personally can't do ENM

ugh I just want to be tied up and thrown around like the filthy little masochistic slvt that I am, but I also have no luck at finding dominant women. This is quite literally the only thing that holds me back from asking out women I'm interested in