You are valid for your boundaries

I comment and browse through the ask men sub often when I'm looking through reddit. I just want to say I get the major ick from some of these comments that seem to lack empathy and emotional intelligence.

I've seen a lot of posts where some guys are invalidating gfs or wives for not wanting their bfs to watch porn. Even used the words controlling a lot. And I'm here to tell you, your feelings being hurt are valid and that is your personal boundary! I'm so sick of seeing these posts where they act like these women are just being ridiculous. My favorite comments are all men watch porn, or whatever else. A lot do but all of them? That's literally insulting to men saying that you're all alike lol

Anyways at the end of the day it literally depends on YOUR personal relationship with your partner. If you guys both are cool with porn or whatever it may be in your relationship then that's completely fine. But if you aren't and the partner is lying or withholding intamcy with you due to porn that obviously that's not healthy boundaries.

Edit: I'm not saying all men are like this, I have a great bf who I even more so appreciate. I just don't agree with this whole misogynistic approach from some I see on here.

I appreciate the different opinions and am open to hearing your thoughts! I guess it was in the wrong sub since it wasn't really a question. I posted this with what I thought was defending the women who aren't okay with it. (Stemmed from a post in men's sub) I still don't view it as being controlling or insecure if you don't want your partner to watch it, but I can see it becoming controlling if you choose to stay with them, keep talking about how it bothers you and they won't stop, then yes it's on you. At that point it's up to the person to leave or stay. There are plenty of cases, though, where the porn watcher stops when in a relationship because they are getting intimacy enough in that relationship. So someone who used to watch porn when single wont always watch it when in a relationship. At the end of the day it needs to be communicated what you are okay with in general. Each relationship is different and I'm not judging those who do vs don't. I personally feel like it just depends on each relationship. Also, I understand a lot of men watch it yes, most all have. But hearing that every single man on the planet watches porn is just ignorant. Every man or woman is different we are not all alike lol how boring would that be if we were?

As far as calling it controlling question. Couldn't you say the same about if your partner was cheating and you told them it hurt you? Would that be controlling if you wanted them to stop? Just curious on thoughts with that. I guess that's why it's hard for me to view something that could be negatively impacting your relationship as being controlling.