Overcoming toxic patterns in dating.

I've been reflecting on a recurring pattern in my dating life that I find concerning. I have a wonderful mother who loves me deeply, but her controlling nature has had a significant impact on me. While I know she genuinely wants the best for me and is always available when I need support, her affection often feels overwhelming and suffocating.

Growing up, I noticed that my mom could be quite moody and has a tendency to act in a somewhat princess-like manner. This dynamic often placed me in a position where I felt responsible for her emotional well-being. I frequently found myself comforting her after she experienced a mood swing or felt upset, even if I didn’t believe I had done anything wrong. It became routine for me to apologize, regardless of the situation, just to restore harmony. This pattern of seeking to make her happy after our disagreements, even over minor issues, has shaped how I view relationships.

As I enter into more serious relationships with men, I tend to tolerate toxic behaviors that I shouldn’t accept. This may stem from my upbringing, where I learned to prioritize the feelings of my mom’s over my own, which often leads me to downplay my own needs and boundaries.

I’m seeking to understand the psychological implications of this dynamic and how I can break free from these patterns