psychiatrist asked invasive questions during intake

my psychiatrist was promoted and doesn’t take clients anymore. the new one i saw asked me multiple things that made me anxious/triggered and i already changed doctors but don’t know if i should report her or follow up with the admin. for context, she was very polite and the intake meeting started really comfortable.

-in response to me saying i had been r*ped she said “did he actually penetrate you? it went in?”

-in response to me saying yes to that question she said “do you know who he was? did you press charges?” i said he was int he friend group but i didn’t press charges because i was drunk had no proof and honestly didn’t want to deal with it legally. she proceeds to say “well now he’s out there r*ping other women”.

-in response to me saying i had experienced DV in highschool thru college she said “well where is he now? did you file any charges against him?” i said “no. i was 17 and thought my boyfriend could have sex with me whenever he wanted etc. “ she says “well where is he now?” i said i don’t know we broke up in 2018 and i try NOT to see things about him. she says “probably abusing his new girlfriend” and then told me if i filed charges that at least it might teach him something.

-after telling her (the first provider i’ve ever disclosed) i self-harmed in college, she asked “why did you do it? to end your life or for attention?” i said i hadn’t ever told anyone about it so not attention but i wasn’t trying to kms. i felt numb and desperate and truthfully i do not know. i regret telling her bc she said exactly what i worry people will say when i disclose.

besides feeling genuinely dumb for sitting thru the whole intake meeting when i knew she was a bad fit, i feel raw and insecure about what she said because i already have anxiety about it. i know i’m not responsible for anything another person does and i should protect myself but i do think about the women who i could have helped by calling them out. anyway i have another intake next week and i don’t want to tell her anything and feel like shit. i just need a refill of my scripts lol my therapist can do the rest.

has anyone had similar experience or have advice on if i should follow up with the admin?