Do any of you find that "platonic" gay friendships are hard to find?

In past cities that I lived in, even when I met a gay guy through a meetup or sports league, I found that he was only interested in being friends with me because he wanted just sex . Trust me, I am not all that. Or like if I would try to befriend a gay guy and he knew I wasn't attracted to him , he would try to distance himself from me and end the friendship.

I also noticed that on hookup apps , tons of guys will say they want friends and will swear up and down that's all they are looking for but if a guy messages them and says they have things in common and want to chat , if the guy is not their type, then they turn him down. It seems like you have to hook up with tons of guys to have a lot of friends (not for me though , because I have never had a hookup ask me to be friends)

I have had situations where guys would be friends with me and once they didn't find me attractive or they found someone else for a boyfriend, they would cut me off.

As a bi man, many straight guys don't want to be friends with me because they think I will hit on them so I look to gay guys for friendship.Plus, gay men are more fun. I just want to be around someone who fully accepts me and I feel that straight men won't and will always feel they can't get too close to me. I am not really wanting to be friends with women because, in the past, when I was friends with them all they cared about was what they could get out of me and only talked to me when they wanted something.