anyone struggling with taking care of parent(s)?

i think as Asians we tend to give back to our parents either by giving them money or try to take care of their health when they get old however they tend to reject our money and tell us they are fine

when they took care of us when we were babies we didnt really have a choice for example, we couldn’t control the getting our diapers changed by them, we were babies now when we try to do the same for them i find it different and difficult because they still have control of not letting us to help them

anyone feel the same?