i wish i didn’t tell my family

i mostly need to vent but any advice about going forward would be great. my WH and i (f) have been working through a lot and are on a really great path towards reconciliation. i have some support from friends but my family is a different story. they don’t understand why i’m trying to work through it and they don’t want to see or talk to him. they talk about being “just as hurt as me” which is so ridiculous IMO because they weren’t actually living it like i am. telling them is my biggest regret right now and i’m worried i’m going to divide my family by not doing something they “approve of”. for context i’m 24 and my husband is 25. we’ve been together for almost 4 years and married for a year and a half. he had a (failed lmao) ONS and completely regretted it immediately after but my family is treating it like he had a whole secret relationship for years. every day i wish i never told them but at the same time i needed support. i don’t have plans to divorce him and i’ve been very open about that to them but they still push back. i feel like i’m stuck in the middle and have to chose a side. i didn’t want to be in this situation in the first place and it feels like i have to choose the “right answer” to make everyone happy. everyone says it’s not my fault but now it’s my fault if i choose the “wrong” answer. WHY am i being put in this situation?? how do i get my family on board with my decisions? idk i just need advice or support or something tyia <3