The lack of basic courtesy in AM is appalling

Hi all, 29M here. Started looking for a partner in April last year. I have accounts in most mainstream AM services and it’s demoralising to not get matches in the first place but what’s really getting on my nerves is the lack of manners or courtesy of most profile handlers of girls I’ve had the misfortune of communicating with.

I know most girl’s profiles are created by their parents without their knowledge/consent and the parents aren’t savvy enough to understand the ways of the many different AM apps. Most of the times I get requests from a girl’s parent(s), I accept if I like the profile and try to contact to take things forward. I get asked to share my bio, pictures and sometimes horoscope and then radio silence.

Just the other day I get a request from a girl’s profile on JS and I accepted. I get message from the girl’s father to share my contact as they’re using the free tier. The parents even tried to share the email address, I understood they’re not technically inclined as there were mistakes in the email address in the message. I looked up the contact info in the profile, got the right email address and shared my contact, bio from BharatMatrimony (I couldn’t find a way to share my bio from JS but I had seen the girl’s profile on BM) and pictures. Earlier today I got a notification from JS that the girl (her parent in fact) had visited my profile. It was odd that I had already accepted the request and yet the notification had the option to view the profile and connect. Found out that I was blocked. No reason, no “Sorry, we decided to not move ahead with this.”, just blocked.

Same with a local AM service, I get request with a message containing phone number to contact. I contact, get asked to share my info then silence for a week or so. Then I call back to ask only to be told that since the girl was just starting her work and want to focus on it, they’ve decided to not look for the next six months. But the profile is still active, the last login reflects that they’re actively looking.

It’s becoming very frustrating to deal with these kinds of parents. Filtering out profiles that were not created by the girl isn’t helping either as I pretty much never get acceptance from my invitations.