AIO: (TW) my fiancé mentioning my childhood trauma on a recorded call
(TW:SA) My fiancé of 3 years mentions my childhood trauma every chance he gets. He mentions it during fights and also when we talk about future. We’re long distance and all our conversations are over the phone. Today he wanted to record our conversation while we were talking about what we want to be written in our marriage contract.
His concern is that he doesn’t want our future kids to ever visit my family because I was SA’d by a distant family member, when I was a child. I was very open about this with him as I was diagnosed with BPD because of the trauma I’ve endured. But the conversation got heated when he mentioned his concerns and I kept saying okay I agree and he wanted me to say word for word «why». I told him on the call that it doesn’t matter why, I’ve agreed to the conditions on a recorded call, so can’t that just be enough? He said «you’re such a smart girl, you refuse to say it because I’m recording» He kept pushing me until I blurted out «yes because I was raped» to which he responded «by a family member».
Now I feel like he has recorded that conversation for some other intention. Because no one in my family knows and I fear he might use it for his benefit. He was supposed to come at the end of the month so we could get married. I sent him these messages in hopes of taking a break can help me clear my mind and understand why he needed it on a recorded call so badly. I also found out that I might not be able to even have kids, I’ve already had surgeries in the past connected to my uterus and I felt like telling him he doesn’t need to come if I have issues was the right move. I feel lost and kind of at the verge of walking out of this relationship. AIO if I break things off?, Also sorry for my bad grammar, English isn’t my first language.
(TW:SA) My fiancé of 3 years mentions my childhood trauma every chance he gets. He mentions it during fights and also when we talk about future. We’re long distance and all our conversations are over the phone. Today he wanted to record our conversation while we were talking about what we want to be written in our marriage contract.
His concern is that he doesn’t want our future kids to ever visit my family because I was SA’d by a distant family member, when I was a child. I was very open about this with him as I was diagnosed with BPD because of the trauma I’ve endured. But the conversation got heated when he mentioned his concerns and I kept saying okay I agree and he wanted me to say word for word «why». I told him on the call that it doesn’t matter why, I’ve agreed to the conditions on a recorded call, so can’t that just be enough? He said «you’re such a smart girl, you refuse to say it because I’m recording» He kept pushing me until I blurted out «yes because I was raped» to which he responded «by a family member».
Now I feel like he has recorded that conversation for some other intention. Because no one in my family knows and I fear he might use it for his benefit. He was supposed to come at the end of the month so we could get married. I sent him these messages in hopes of taking a break can help me clear my mind and understand why he needed it on a recorded call so badly. I also found out that I might not be able to even have kids, I’ve already had surgeries in the past connected to my uterus and I felt like telling him he doesn’t need to come if I have issues was the right move. I feel lost and kind of at the verge of walking out of this relationship. AIO if I break things off?, Also sorry for my bad grammar, English isn’t my first language.