Make it make sense

I’m pregnant. My boyfriend is my Q. He’s “California sober” and says after his year is up he intends to drink again, socially. 🙄 I told him I cannot go back to him drinking and he very intentionally said he would not agree to never drink again. Our relationship is better than it’s ever been while he’s been sober. He’s amazing.

This evening he gets a call from his (alcoholic) father, whom he almost never speaks to and barely had a relationship with growing up. After the phone call he comes downstairs and angrily says that his dad drunk called him again, wallowing in self pity and shame for being an absent father. “All I want to do is have a fucking drink”, he says to me.

So…. Tell me how a man who absolutely hates that he had an absent alcoholic father, turned INTO an alcoholic himself, and is now on the precipice of being a father, can’t see how he’s about to continue the cycle??

I don’t want to offend anyone by saying this but I am considering that this pregnancy is not something I should continue with. I mean this man is just not getting it.

I’m so heartbroken. Over many things but obviously the pregnancy, but hurting him. This will crush him. I love him.