Neighbor that works nights

We don’t get along with our neighbors on one side of us. They are hostile to us for reasons they refuse to explain. Generally we just ignore them. A few months ago they went on vacation and they have someone staying in their house during that time.

We have been doing a major remodel of our bathroom for the last month or so. We are likely to be done in another month if all goes to plan. Yesterday (Sunday) our neighbor’s house sitter came out very irritated around 4:00pm. He informed us that he works nights on sat,sun, and, mon and sleeps during the day. We have kept him up all day. He wasn’t hostile like our neighbors but obviously this is going to be a problem.

He works nights on my husbands days off. Sunday and Monday. All other days my husband works until 6pm. We have been making a lot of noise over the last month and this guy is just now telling us his sleeping schedule. Our neighbors didn’t tell us before hand either. The day he told us was the day we completely gutted our bathroom. We have no shower and will soon have no toilet for a few days. We absolutely cannot afford to draw this out more than we need to trying to be quiet during the day. My husband cannot take time off work during the week to work on this and he shouldn’t have to. If we had known beforehand we could have made modified arrangements.

Over the next at least two weekends we will need to use a reciprocating saw. Use an electric sander to refinish a bathtub that is in our backyard, use an air compressor (also outside) to power a nail gun for framing and putting up drywall and flooring among general construction noise.

The advice I need is: how on earth are we supposed to finish this remodel without pissing this guy off even more? If we work at night when my husband gets home during the week we’ll be bothering all the other neighbors. If we work during the day we bother him. On one hand I want to be respectful but on the other hand, not being able to work on my husbands days off is just not possible and I feel like because he didn’t tell us earlier that we don’t owe him anything because we’re already beyond the point of being able to make alternate plans. I also have severe anxiety and his confrontation caused me to have a panic attack.

I’m not sure there is a right answer here but I’d love to hear from night workers or people that live next to them. How much should a neighbor be expected to accommodate someone with an alternate schedule? Am I in the right that since we weren’t informed earlier, his lack of sleep is not really our problem or am I being inconsiderate?