My family and my boyfriend’s family are pressuring me (16f) to marry him (19m) and I feel like i’m losing my mind

I barely even know where to start with this because it feels completely insane. I' ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years and I consider it serious but not to the point of marriage.

My boyfriend was has always made feel so safe and comfortable around me. He always seemed to support what I want it.

But now, things have taken a turn and i feel like i’m suffocating. both of our families have started seriously pushing for us to get married. like, actual wedding talk, looking at venues, and saying things like “Why wait when you already know you’re meant to be?” my mom keeps going on about how it’s better to marry young and how i’ll be set for life because my boyfriend already has a stable job.

His mom is even worse, constantly reminding me that she married young and how it’s “such a blessing” to have someone who wants to commit early.

And somehow my boyfriend is totally on board. he says we’ve been together so long that marriage is just the next step. every time I try to say I'm not ready, he tells me “we basically already act like we’re married” and that waiting is pointless. he even asked me if i wanted to look at rings. I reminded him I'm sixteen and he just said “age doesn’t matter when you love someone.”

They want it to happen by the end of next year and I've tried to bring up the law but apparently here you can do it with permission from your parents if you're not 18. My mom said that she'd be happy to convince my dad into consenting to it.

I feel like i’m the only one seeing how messed up this is. My friends think it’s weird, but my family acts like i’m being ungrateful or overreacting. Every time I push back, I get guilt-tripped about how lucky I am and how I should appreciate having someone who’s this committed to me.

i don’t know what to do. if I flat-out refuse, i feel like i’m going to be the bad guy and disappoint everyone. but if I go along with it, i’m basically giving up my entire future before I even get a chance to figure out what I want.

How do I convince everyone to slow down for even just a little bit?