Making Friends

I need advice on making and maintaining friends. I always appear to be on the back burner, forgotten, dismissed, and eventually replaced by individual friends, various groups and all past partners. This has occurred throughout my young adult to adult life. I have been called intense, sensitive, too difficult/much, authentic, emotional, etc. I show up as myself, I am mindful of my actions towards others, I offer help and assistance whenever it can be applied (seemingly more than most people around me), I am respectful towards my peers and elders, I have a huge need for fairness and equality for all, and I have a sincere heart that seeks connections with other human beings that are like minded. Any advice on how I can branch out and find my group of people? My insane pattern recognition is hinting at my need to connect with emotionally unavailable or emotionally avoidant people (in friends and in partners). I have done the work and know that this stems from the relationship I have with my emotionally absent father, and I am in the process of choosing myself and being more emotionally available to myself. With that progress being said, I still feel I am ending up in some tense or “sticky” situations with people I consider friends. Their reactions to my emotions, feelings and opinions sometimes shows up as me CAUSING a problem just by… being me… I am wondering if I am focusing on the incorrect people for me, and if I am, how can I focus on finding the people I mesh with? Am I over exerting in rooms I no longer belong in? (I am open to feedback about my part as well, I am not placing blame on the people I have mentioned).