Getting over being let go of a leadership role.

I could use some advice on moving forward from a tough situation. I’ve been coaching recreational softball for 14 years, from 8U to 18U, and have had my fair share of success, both in wins and championships. For three years, I held a leadership role in my local youth league, but last summer, I was removed from that position.

I’ve done my best to move on, but recently, my wife shared that some families who once said they wouldn’t play in our Sunday showcase league while I was coaching now have their kids in the program. She means well, but every time I hear things like this, it feels like salt in the wound. On top of that, I’ve heard that I was never really part of the “in-crowd,” and now the same people are backstabbing me verbally towards others and the organization I am with now. It’s a small town, and sadly common here, but that doesn’t make it easier.

I put a lot of time and effort into the kids, and I genuinely care about their development. It’s tough knowing that some families didn’t want to be part of a program I was involved in but are now fully on board. I know I need to move on (my wife has told me as much), but it’s been hard when little reminders keep popping up.

For those who have gone through something similar—whether in coaching, work, or leadership roles—how did you truly let go and move forward? Any advice would be appreciated.