AITA for being friends with someone after declining their sexual advances?

I (23f) have a conundrum. I have been talking to my friend “Jake”(22m) for a while now, him and I have always been good friends and it’s always been easy to talk to him about anything. I recently got into an argument with my boyfriend (36m) because he found out that before him and I got together, my friend and I had planned to hook up. Now, we never did and he backed off when I got with my boyfriend. I told him we could be friends but all the sexual things were a no-go. He agreed and was supportive of my relationship. Jake would talk to me about his relationship issues and help me see things from a male perspective. A few days ago, my boyfriend asked to see the text messages between Jake and I, and he scrolled through until he found the thread of us planning to hook up. He blew up on me, saying that I was cheating on him and he couldn’t believe I’d been “living a double life” While I agree that being friends with someone i have ”history” with is disrespectful to our relationship, I don’t consider that cheating. Jake and I have never hooked up, nor have we made any sexual advances towards each other since I’ve been with my boyfriend. My friends think he’s overreacting and being overprotective but I understand his anger, I just don’t think it goes so deep as to consider it cheating. AITAH?