I think I finally figured out what's going through Trent and Amber's minds now.

Does everyone remember a few years back when the older kids were in their teens and Amber and Trent were always talking about how they wanted them out of the house and independent as soon as they turned 18? Even if they planned to be full-time college students, they told the kids they expected them to have jobs and their own homes or apartments right out of the gate. But, of course, T&A had to have the final say in where they lived. As adults.

Then, when the kids (predictably) started to struggle mentally and emotionally from being forced to take on too much all at once, T&A DEMANDED that they not only come back home but relinquish control of their lives, because mommy and daddy know best. Anna is the ONLY one who worked her way through the initial struggle, but does she get props for that? Nope. Why? Because if Trent and Amber gave her props they would have to admit to themselves that their controlling ways are the reason the other kids didn't figure out how to thrive on their own.